It’s been a while since I sat down at my laptop and tapped away. “Therapeutic typing” is how I referred to blogging. Some moments of time snatched away from the everyday stuff that always needs to be done, and refocused on me.
Maybe that’s where I have gone wrong. Not focusing on me.
I recently wrote about being burnt out and fed up, maybe I still am. After I wrote the post, I was amazed at the response I got.
People commented on being in a similar situation and how bone tired they were. What they did to change it. Stating that we all had the permission, and need, to take some time out for ourselves so we could be as good as we can be.
Mums from school messaged me, saying they had seen my post and wanted to help. What a fabulous tribe. They arranged for play dates and sleepovers for our eight year old. They offered to babysit the kids so my husband and I could go out for a coffee in relative peace. Cooked meals were offered.
A kick-arse group of women who know that sometimes you need to ask for help, and are there when you need it. I hope everyone has a group of awesome friends like that.
Elizabeth Gilbert wrote about going to the water in times of stress or overwhelm. Go to the beach, have a bath, drink a litre of water. And you know what? She’s bang on the money.
We recently visited family in Tasmania and discovered bay after bay of beautiful, picture perfect idyllic settings. There was something about the boats bobbing calmly on the water that just stopped the noises in my head. That just put a big shush on everything else, and made you stop and take a breath, and just be. Waves crashing had the same effect. Living several hours from the coast, I miss being close to the ocean, but I’m going to make more of an effort to walk around our beautiful lakes here.
In addition to her advice of going to the water, I’d also add to go to a garden. Get outside and do some weeding or planting in your garden. Get your hands in the dirt. Channel your energy into that. If you don’t have a garden, go to your local park or botanical garden and soak it all up.
While you’re at it, throw in a digital detox.
Self care has to become a priority for parents. I think we have to also teach our kids about self care so they don’t suddenly wonder why, when they’re in their 30s, that they’re exhausted.
It’s ok to take some time out. I’ve even taken to adding “Freezer Friday” to the meal plan. Whatever everyone wants from the freezer is what is for dinner. Be it leftovers, or frozen fish. No added meal preparation, no pressure, and everything will pair nicely with a glass of wine for parents. Can’t go wrong there.
Why the hell didn’t I do this sooner?!
I’m still tired, (but show me a parent who isn’t) but the sheer exhaustion has faded.
Do you find being near water calming and rejuvenating?
Am I the only one who has just figured out how awesome Freezer Fridays are?
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